Better at Loving Me
The one who gets wisdom loves life; the one who cherishes understanding will soon prosper.
Proverbs 19:8 (NIV)
Part of the Hebrew understanding of love makes it not only emotional but actionable. You can use the word love in relation to God’s love for you to shape your perception of yourself, to guide your self-care, and to frame your view of life, including how you fit into the world and what’s really important about your life.
God wants you to love His people, and He certainly wants you to love Him. He wants you to love His church and His creation. But God also wants you to love yourself, and He wants you to love yourself as He loves you, which means you have a right to make loving yourself a priority. You are honoring God when you love yourself because it affirms your gratitude for the way God decided to express His creative, sovereign, divine imagination through your life.
If you carry God’s wisdom, you are receiving what helps you to love yourself, and therefore, you don’t need to depend on or become addicted to whether other people are handling you with a healthy love. When you love yourself, you don’t mind demanding from others how you expect to be handled as you grow and mature and change.
They need to handle you based on the you that you’ve become and not the you that you used to be, still timid and afraid and uncertain and unaware. In Christ, there is no stagnation. He’s always growing us and maturing us and shaping us and filling us and blessing us and elevating us and progressing us. So that means you are always growing, and you have to give yourself permission to love yourself enough to move forward.
Do you know how many of us won’t accept God’s blessings because we’re still beating ourselves up over who we used to be? Perhaps guilt is suppressing you so much that you don’t think you deserve it. Know that the devil is a liar. He who the son sets free is free indeed. And if you are free, that means every opportunity God has in your future is given with full knowledge of your past, and He’s telling you to forget those days that are behind you.
