Managing Moments
“‘This is what you are to say to Joseph: I ask you to forgive your brothers the sins and the wrongs they committed in treating you so badly.’ Now please forgive the sins of the servants of the God of your father.” When their message came to him, Joseph wept. His brothers then came and threw themselves down before him. “We are your slaves,” they said. But Joseph said to them, “Don’t be afraid. Am I in the place of God? You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives.
Genesis 50:17-20 (NIV)
All of us, as Christians, have fluctuating emotional moments. We confess that there are times when our emotions are all over the place. If you don’t learn to steward these emotional fluctuations, you can frustrate progress. If you don’t learn to steward them, you’ll mess around and say the wrong thing, like “I didn’t mean what I said.” You meant it when you said it. You may regret that you said it, but now you are messing around with the fallout of an emotional moment.
Joseph is crying and weeping, but not because it is a purging of emotions; it is the delivering of a message. This text teaches that when life and human exchanges and lived circumstances force these fluctuating emotional moments—moments where your emotions are sending you all over the place and causing these tough, constructive thoughts and expressions—you must stop being a victim to your fluctuations.
Joseph was strong in intent, focused and passionate in purpose, in love with God, grateful for all God had done. Be like Joseph, making the best out of bad situations, learning how to thrive in tough places, letting your gifts make room for you. Never let life knock you so low that it makes you miss the invitation to prove to the world that you live with a conviction that all things work together for good for those who love God and who are called according to His purpose.
Joseph is not having something pulled from him. He’s having something communicated to him. His tears are delivering a message. And he needed this message because he has lived with detachment for two decades.
These moments in life that hurt us, scar us, inflame us, and anger us, these moments that fatigue us and make us want to quit and walk away: don’t let your response to them steal the power that God gives you to interpret your emotions.
If you have found yourself in Jesus Christ, then no matter what you go through, you ought to have the capacity to tap in so that tears become joy.
It’s All God
Now hurry back to my father and say to him, “This is what your son Joseph says: God has made me lord of all Egypt. Come down to me; don’t delay. You shall live in the region of Goshen and be near me—you, your children and grandchildren, your flocks and herds, and all you have. I will provide for you there, because five years of famine are still to come. Otherwise you and your household and all who belong to you will become destitute.”
Genesis 45:9-11 (NIV)
A maturing faith is always growing deeper convictions that “it’s all God.” Not your intellect, not degrees, not human connections, not certain platforms, not ambition, energy, drive, or desire. This is what Joseph is teaching us.
Joseph essentially says, “Go back home, brothers. Tell the old man that I’ve been made Lord of all Egypt, and he needs to leave the house there. Tell him, don’t worry about your safety. Don’t worry about your existence at all. For that matter, all of you, grab everybody connected to you and make your trek back here as fast as you can. I have Goshen ready for you.”
Remember that Joseph has now been all over Egypt, supervising the collection and the storage of grain. He knows that Goshen is an extremely fertile region and he knows the capabilities of his family to farm land like this. Joseph scours Egypt, handling his responsibilities, but never forgetting that it was not circumstances that brought him here. It was God. And you must know that when God puts you in a place, no matter how much pressure is in that place, you need to maximize your time there because God doesn’t have you there by accident.
Question: Do you think about your whole life in the context that “it’s all about God”?
As Christians, we must nurture this motif and develop this ethic. We live on the foundation of this strong conviction when we accept that God is faithful to His plan for us, individually and collectively. Mark this: He is faithful to what His plan is for you. Sometimes we get upset because we want God to be faithful to our plan, but God is faithful to His plan.
The Big Reveal
Then Joseph said to his brothers, “Come close to me.” When they had done so, he said, “I am your brother Joseph, the one you sold into Egypt! And now, do not be distressed and do not be angry with yourselves for selling me here, because it was to save lives that God sent me ahead of you. For two years now there has been famine in the land, and for the next five years there will be no plowing and reaping. But God sent me ahead of you to preserve for you a remnant on earth and to save your lives by a great deliverance. So then, it was not you who sent me here, but God. He made me father to Pharaoh, lord of his entire household and ruler of all Egypt.
Genesis 45:4-8 (NIV)
Emerging from all of these years of being suspected dead, Joseph now reveals a restored and strengthened soul, a tough and resilient survivor. And so Joseph, in one small sentence, shares how he understands this entire journey to date, though marred and filled with treachery and trials. Here is what Joseph essentially says, “Brothers, don’t be afraid. You don’t have to nurture fear. Now that I’ve revealed my identity, all of my life has been part of the intricate tapestry of God’s plans. The threads of love, redemption, and reconciliation are being woven together, creating a human picture of divine grace that will forever change the course of human history.”
We see the seismic collision of human fallibility and divine providence. We see the transformative power of forgiveness and how it has the strength to pierce through the darkest recesses of the human heart, forcing it to emerge from brokenness and mistreatment and displacement to a place of healing, restoration, and the promise of a future imbued with divine purpose.
Not one expression of hate or anger. We see Joseph enveloping more than 20 years of life’s worst hits by saying, “Trouble didn’t push me here. You brothers did not push me here. People who sold me and resold me did not push me here. It wasn’t pain that pushed me here. It was God who sent me here.” Do you see the difference in perspective?
It is God who has delivered us to this place of strength. We must not take advantage and repay evil with evil or critique in others what finally has become conquered in us. Joseph could have paid evil for evil or he could have been depressed and committed suicide. He could have pointed his finger in the face of God and told God that He’s unfair and inequitable. But Joseph has grown through what he’s been through until he had a different perspective.
He’s not a prisoner to his pain and disappointment. He’s a child of God who believes that God is working a complete work in him. He wasn’t pushed. He was sent.
Making the Best of the Less Than Perfect
Then Pharaoh said to Joseph, “Since God has made all this known to you, there is no one so discerning and wise as you. You shall be in charge of my palace, and all my people are to submit to your orders. Only with respect to the throne will I be greater than you.” So Pharaoh said to Joseph, “I hereby put you in charge of the whole land of Egypt.”
Genesis 41:38-41 (NIV)
Can we learn to honor God with gratitude and faithfulness when we have to steward less-than-perfect seasons?
Life doesn’t always gift you with perfection, but God’s perfect will is always gifting you, even if His presence and purposes in your life are displayed in less-than-perfect contexts and conditions of life. Even in the less-than-perfect context, you are perfectly situated to honor God in the same way you would if it were absolutely perfect, because perfect is not the only way God gives gifts.
God is saying, Why are you limiting your theological reflection of Me to think that I can’t accomplish My perfect will in your less-than-perfect circumstances? I can take your broke circumstances and make you rich. I can take your sick condition and make you a healer. I can take your conflicting environment and still give you peace.
Faithfulness does not depend on perfect conditions. It thrives in imperfect circumstances because faithfulness is a choice. We make a commitment to persevere despite the challenges that are surrounding us. It’s an unwavering belief that even when we cannot see the results of our labor or efforts, we keep showing up because God can work His perfect will in a less-than-perfect context.
The context and conditions are going to change, but you will only benefit from it if you can be faithful in the season that precedes it. So get up and go back to the same job you can’t stand and work it like you love it. Drive that dilapidated car and let it smoke and shake; drive it like you just rolled it off the showroom floor. Get your sick body up out of the bed, shake yourself into some flexibility, and walk even with your ailment, like you are a picture of perfect health. Why? Because trouble doesn’t last. Be faithful in the less-than-perfect because God’s perfect will is in it.
Better at Being Almost There
“We both had dreams,” they answered, “but there is no one to interpret them.” Then Joseph said to them, “Do not interpretations belong to God? Tell me your dreams.”
Genesis 40:4-8 (NIV)
Do you ever feel like you’re “almost there”? You’re standing on the precipice. You can feel it, you can taste it, you can emote it, you can hear it, you can see it, you can discern it, but you can’t touch it yet. You can’t enjoy it yet.
Every single one of us can relate to the space in life where we’re “almost there.” God’s plan is not moving at the pace you’d like but you have to find some peace and freedom in this space as you look forward. Being “almost there” is being free to embrace the future but also feeling like your life right now has you in a prison.
How do you honor God when you’re in a space called “almost there”? When you finally can say, “I discern that I’m doing what I am supposed to do, and I will not feel restricted in how I use my gifts right now,” you can be better at being “almost there.”
This is what Joseph does. He doesn’t let his gift be as restricted in its flow as he is restricted in his autonomy. His gift is being pulled on in his exchange with the cupbearer and the baker. Joseph easily, swiftly, and spiritually discerns their dreams. Joseph doesn’t let all that’s happening to him make him sit idle. When his gift is being pulled on by others, he becomes fully engaged and decides “I may not be where I want to be, and where I am is certainly not an optimal space. It doesn’t seem to match the vision that God has given to me, but since I am where I am and I can’t do anything about that until God decides to make a transition in my life, here’s what I’m going to do: I’m going to use my gift.”
Do you let your gift starve because your circumstances are not optimal? The worst thing you can do when you carry big dreams is to be stingy with your gift. God is giving you an opportunity to exercise it and mature it so that you don’t mess it up when He takes you where you’re meant to go.
